Joy of joys. Apparently there’s a Pick Up Artist seminar coming to New Zealand, which may or may not include ‘The World’s Most Hated Man‘- Julien Blanc.
The seminar is being organised by Real Social Dynamics – a Pick Up Artist
circlejerk ‘community’ – and will allegedly be held on 21 April at a secret location. This is presumably to avoid a dangerous stampede of women hammering at the doors, their frantic eyes burning with desire, clawing at their clothes as they scream “Negggg meeeee, neggggg meeeeeee” in unison.
Blanc’s January and April seminar tour was cancelled in Australia for reasons currently unknown, but hopefully his visa was cancelled again.
Frankly, I don’t care if the seminar is run by Julien Blanc, the irresistible Jeff “Jeffy” Allen or any other treasure who thinks he has a “PhD in female attraction” – New Zealand should have zero tolerance for seminars run by groups that promote violence against women. Because, along with living in your mum’s basement, that’s what Pick Up Artists promote.
The whole community is founded on the idea that women can be “gamed” into finding men attractive because they are “naturally passive”. Apparently, the more confident and pushy the man, the more endearing he is to these mythical women that love to be hounded in public.
Women are ‘negged‘ into trying to please the PUAs who are hitting on them. Men who usually have an end goal of achieving sex, even if it means employing sexual assault strategies. Men who watch videos and revere ‘Alpha Male’ figures like Blanc, who posted photos (now deleted, of course) of him holding women in chokeholds while propositioning them, and once made a video (shock: now also deleted) telling men in Japan to “Just go through Tokyo, grab girls and yell ‘Pikachu!’ and put her head on your dick”.
I doubt every man who’s used PUA strategies is, or intends to be, a rapist. I doubt most of the creators of these ‘strategies’ think they’re doing anything sexually violent or coercive. The majority of the community seems to be made up of awkward men seeking strategies to overcome their fears of rejection and get out more. But.
Many of the strategies are aggressive, manipulative and coercive. And all of the strategies are reductive, offensive and try to achieve sexual contact by using existing harmful sexist norms to men’s advantage. The ‘anti slut defense’ or “ASD” – because acronyms are always hot – is a perfect example of this:
“Post-sex ASD often involves justifications for the sex act: “It just happened,” “he wouldn’t give up,” “I was really drunk,” etc. PUAs should take this tendency of women into consideration, and make sex as easy for her as possible by taking the lead and responsibility for sex, and providing her with convenient excuses for sleeping with them.”
Yeah I mean, it’s definitely an imaginary psychological barrier and not the fact PUAs are pushy creeps which make women not want to sleep with them. Also, being really drunk or feeling like your partner wouldn’t give up is unequivocally sexual violence.
All of the sexist tropes PUAs promote exist on this spectrum of violence. If we tolerate and shrug it off it at ‘lower’ levels, it feeds the environment that allows the worst sexual and family violence to exist. PUAs, and other men who think women are sexy puzzles to get cheat codes for, are the foundations on which intimate partner violence stands.
Pick Up Artistry is ultimately a pyramid scheme of “psychology”, “inner games” and “outer games” followed by lonely guys who idolise Blanc and other “Alphas” for their confidence. And honestly? I feel a bit sorry for those guys.
But these ‘Alphas’ – whoa boy are they are different story. I mean, I feel sorry for them too, because poor Jeff Allen needs his “Mighty Wolf” poster on the inside of his panel van to remind him “of the majesty of nature…which [he] employ[s] on a nightly basis as inspiration for ‘beast mode'”. (Are you aroused? I am).
But ultimately they’re dangerous. Somewhere, someone along the line failed to take one by their mullet and tell them that it doesn’t matter that Lucy Johnson told all her friends he smelt bad in gym class, and that wetting the bed about it for the next decade until he saw the Matrix and decided to turn himself around, is no basis for a career. Especially a career that creates forums where men guide each other to assault women as a legitimate seduction ‘tactic’.
In New Zealand 1 in 3 women will experience intimate partner violence in her lifetime. It’s an epidemic. And anything that contributes to this – like teaching men to ‘game’ women in order to get sex – needs to be told what’s good. Whether it’s Blanc, or his minions, we have to send their limited edition German army backpacks, packing.
So I’ve started a petition through ActionStation to ask the Minister of Immigration to deny their visas. Sign here and help keep Pick Up Artists in their mum’s basements.